"Still Got It" - over 50 work comeback

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Still Got It

Because "Retired" Doesn't Mean "Retired from Being Awesome"

Let's get one thing straight: Retirement? Sure, I did that. Being done? Hell no. I've got over 35 years of experience in public and human services, and spoiler alert—I still have a LOT to give to the workplace. Not because I need the validation (been there, done that, got the t-shirt), but because experience is the superpower nobody wants to admit they're desperate for.

The Superpowers Nobody Talks About

1. We Read People Like Yesterday's News

After decades in the workforce, you develop this magical ability to spot personalities from a mile away. You know who'll actually show up and do the work versus who'll happily let you carry the load while they collect the credit. You can identify the ego-driven players versus the genuine hearts. And here's the kicker—I've learned to work with ALL of them.

Years ago, would I have stroked someone's fragile ego just to get a project done? Absolutely not. Maybe I needed mine stroked too—who knows. But now? If ego-stroking is what moves the needle, hand me the metaphorical brush. I'll paint that ego Sistine Chapel-level beautiful if it means the work gets done. That's not selling out; that's strategic brilliance.

2. We've Seen This Movie Before

Change management? Please. We've navigated more transitions than a GPS on a road trip. When I point out pitfalls, people think I'm being resistant to change. I can literally HEAR the eyeballs rolling. But guess what happens six months later? Exactly what I said would happen.

It's not because I'm the smartest person in the room—not by a long shot. It's because I've lived through it before. The new vocabulary might be different, but the problems? Same old tune, just a different remix.

The Government Transformation Paradox

Let me tell you about my favorite workplace comedy: government "transformation." Governments LOVE this word. They live for it. But here's the thing—with administration cycles lasting 4-8 years, they're basically professional wheel-reinventors.

They genuinely believe something is "new" and "groundbreaking." In reality? We did this in 1997, called it something else, and it didn't work then either. True transformation requires RISK. But public service? Risk-averse doesn't even begin to cover it. There's only so much risk that's tolerable, so what you get is calculated reinvention of previous ways of doing things.

Maybe this happens in other industries too, but in public service, it's practically an art form. And here's the kicker—North Americans think we're this "new world" open to fresh ideas, but mostly we just copy what European countries did twenty years ago. Because guess what? Older countries have that experience too.

Government professional at work

What We Bring to the Table (Besides Sass)

Institutional Memory: We remember why certain decisions were made and what happened last time someone tried that "innovative" approach.

Emotional Intelligence: We've made all the interpersonal mistakes already, so you don't have to.

Perspective: We know what's actually an emergency and what just feels like one because someone's PowerPoint deadline is looming.

Mentorship: We can actually explain the "why" behind processes, not just the "what."

Crisis Management: Nothing phases us anymore. Your "crisis" is our Tuesday.

Network Gold: Decades of professional relationships mean we know who to call to actually get things done.

“There are real advantages to hiring these employees. Studies have shown that older workers may lower time-keeping and absentee issues; they also tend to have higher levels of commitment to their jobs and loyalty to their employers…”
— Richard Branson

Hot Side Gig & Remote Work Ideas for the Over-50 Crowd

🎯 Consultant

Use your decades of experience to advise companies. They'll pay you what they should've been paying you all along.

✍️ Freelance Writer

Industry blogs, white papers, grant writing—someone needs your knowledge in words.

🎓 Online Instructor

Teach courses on platforms like Udemy, Coursera, or specialized training sites.

🤝 Executive Coach

Help younger leaders navigate the minefields you've already crossed.

📊 Project Manager

Remote PM roles are everywhere, and experience actually matters here.

💼 Virtual Assistant

High-level VA work for executives—scheduling, research, problem-solving.

📝 Grant Writer

Non-profits will love you forever. Great remote work with flexible hours.

🎤 Public Speaker

Virtual conferences need experts. You've got stories that need telling.

🔍 Evaluation Specialist

Companies need people who can assess programs and processes. Hello, that's us.

🌐 Nonprofit Board Member

Often paid positions, always influential, completely aligned with your values.

“Age is about as totally unrelated to job performance as any measure can be.”
— Schmidt and Hunter

“Older workers bring decades of experience and unique skills that can only be developed over many years.”
— Eileen Suazo

Resources to Get Your Comeback Started

Job Boards & Remote Work Sites

American-Specific Job Boards

FlexJobs (flexjobs.com)
Vetted remote, part-time, and flexible jobs. Worth the subscription.

RetiredBrains (retiredbrains.com)
Specifically for people over 50 looking for work. Finally, someone gets it.

Workforce50 (workforce50.com)
Job board focused on experienced professionals. No ageism here.

AARP Job Board (aarpworksearch.org)
Free resource with thousands of listings from age-friendly employers.

We Work Remotely (weworkremotely.com)
Massive remote job board across all industries.

Remote.co (remote.co)
Remote jobs plus articles on working from home successfully.

Canadian-Specific Job Boards

Job Bank (jobbank.gc.ca)
Government of Canada's official job site. Free and reliable.

Canada's Top 100 Employers - Over 40 (canadastop100.com/older_workers)
Annual list of Canadian employers with age-friendly policies. Research before you apply.

Workhoppers (workhoppers.com)
Canadian platform connecting experienced workers with flexible opportunities.

CanadaJobs (canadajobs.com)
Major Canadian job board with resources for mature workers.

Indeed Canada (ca.indeed.com)
Search "older worker" or "mature worker" for age-friendly postings.

Eluta (eluta.ca)
Canadian job site pulling directly from employer websites. Interface is ugly, but it works.

NoDesk (nodesk.co/remote-jobs/canada)
Curated remote Canadian jobs across all industries.

Working Nomads (workingnomads.com/remote-canada-jobs)
Remote jobs in Canada with email alerts. No nonsense.

Remotive (remotive.com/remote-canada-jobs)
Quality remote Canadian jobs, screened and curated.

Provincial Resources

ALIS - Alberta (alis.alberta.ca/tools-and-resources/resources-for-mature-workers)
Alberta's resource hub for workers over 45. Career planning tools and labour market stats.

The Working Centre - Ontario (theworkingcentre.org/workers-over-45)
Waterloo region support for workers 45+. Worth checking if you're in Ontario.

Targeted Initiative for Older Workers (TIOW) (canada.ca - search TIOW)
Federal program for unemployed workers 55-64. Check your provincial ministry for local projects.

Freelance & Consulting Platforms

American Freelance & Consulting Platforms

Upwork (upwork.com)
Massive freelance marketplace. Your experience will stand out here.

Catalant (gocatalant.com)
High-end consulting projects with major corporations.

Toptal (toptal.com)
Elite freelance network—selective but well-paid.

Business Talent Group (businesstalentgroup.com)
Connects experienced professionals with consulting opportunities.

Canadian Freelance & Consulting Platforms

Freel (freel.ca)
Exclusively for Canadian freelancers. Local gigs, Canadian clients. 700+ professionals already here.

Freelance.ca (freelance.ca)
Canadian platform connecting local talent with businesses. Browse projects or get contacted directly.

Workhoppers (workhoppers.com)
Canadian-based platform with AI matching. No commissions or recruiting fees. Pay by hour or project.

Canadian Virtual Gurus (canadianvirtualgurus.ca)
Alberta-based. All freelancers are Canadian. Virtual assistant and specialized services.

RPSAV (rpsav.ca)
Réseau des professionnelles en soutien administratif virtuel. French-speaking freelance assistants and secretaries.

Flexable (flexable.work)
Growing Canadian presence. Curated onboarding process. Focus on higher-value, long-term contracts.

LinkedIn Services Marketplace (linkedin.com)
Leverage your professional network. List services on your profile. Clients come to you. No platform fees.

Learning & Skill Development

LinkedIn Learning (linkedin.com/learning)
Brush up on skills or learn new ones. They'll never know you learned it last Tuesday.

Coursera (coursera.org)
University-level courses, many free. Because we're never too old to learn.

SCORE (score.org)
Free mentoring and resources if you're thinking about starting your own business.

Networking & Community

LinkedIn (linkedin.com)
Update that profile. Connect with old colleagues. You know more people than you think.

Reenergize (reenergizeyourcareer.com)
Community and resources for professionals over 50.

Wahve (wahve.com)
Connects experienced insurance and accounting professionals with remote wor

Canadian Learning Platforms & Institutions

Athabasca University (athabascau.ca)
Canada's open university. 850+ online courses. Self-paced learning. Actual degrees and certificates.

University of Toronto - Coursera (coursera.org)
Free courses from U of T. Get certificates. Looks good on LinkedIn.

UBC Extended Learning (extendedlearning.ubc.ca)
Professional development, certificates, micro-credentials. British Columbia's top university.

BCIT Free Online Learning (bcit.ca/free-online-learning)
British Columbia Institute of Technology offers free short courses (6-14 hours). Career exploration, skills upgrading.

eCampusOntario (ecampusontario.ca)
Access to 200+ online courses from Ontario colleges. Many free options.

Centennial College Online (centennialcollege.ca/programs-courses/online-learning)
200+ online courses. Certificates, diplomas, graduate studies. Ontario-based.

Robertson College (robertsoncollege.com)
40+ online courses. Micro-courses (10 hours) to full diplomas (51 weeks). Flexible, industry-led.

Canada School of Public Service (csps-efpc.gc.ca)
For federal public servants but also has free courses open to all Canadians. Leadership, skills development.

Class Central (classcentral.com/country/canada)
Aggregator of free Canadian university courses. U of T, UBC, and more.

Government-Funded Training Programs for Older Workers

Better Jobs Ontario (ontario.ca/betterojobs)
For laid-off workers. Pays for training AND living expenses while you retrain. Open to all ages.

Ontario Job Creation Partnerships (ontario.ca)
For EI recipients. Develop employable skills, get work experience. Increases your chances of long-term employment.

Skills Training for Employment - Older Workers 55+ (B.C.)
Contact your local college or employment centre. B.C. invested $5 million annually for 733+ older workers. Provincial programs like "Encore Careers" at Douglas College.

Ontario Get SET Program (ontario.ca)
Improve reading, writing, math, computer skills. Free. Service provider creates personalized learning plan.

Canada-Alberta Job Grant (alberta.ca)
Employers can get funding to train you. Worth knowing about when negotiating with potential employers.

Your Provincial Employment Centre
Every province has employment services for older workers. Skills assessments, resume help, training referrals. Search "[your province] employment services older workers."

ALIS - Alberta Learning Information Service (alis.alberta.ca/tools-and-resources/resources-for-mature-workers)
Career planning tools, labour market info, resources for workers 45+. Alberta-specific but valuable even if you're elsewhere.

"They say experience is wasted on the old. I say opportunity is wasted on the young who don't know what they don't know."

The Bottom Line

We're not looking for handouts or sympathy hires. We're looking for organizations smart enough to recognize that experience isn't a liability—it's the competitive advantage they've been missing.

So yeah, I'm "retired." I'm also available, capable, and carrying around 35+ years of wisdom that no amount of fresh graduate enthusiasm can replicate. The workplace needs what we've got, even if they don't know it yet.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have some ego-stroking to do and a transformation initiative to politely predict the failure of. Again.

Makeup Tips for Mature Skin: Because We're Not Trying to Look 25

A brutally honest guide from someone who peaked at mascara application in 1987

Look, I'm going to level with you right from the jump: I have absolutely no business writing a makeup guide. None. Zero. I am the human equivalent of a "Pinterest Fail" meme when it comes to cosmetics.

But here's the thing—I'm pretty sure there are thousands of us out here, wandering through Sephora like confused tourists in a foreign country, pretending we understand what "setting spray" is and nodding knowingly when the 19-year-old sales associate mentions "baking." (Spoiler alert: she's not talking about cookies, and I'm still disappointed about it.)

Full disclosure: My makeup skills peaked somewhere around 1987 when I mastered the art of applying Maybelline Great Lash mascara without poking myself in the eye. It's been downhill ever since.

The Problem With Modern Makeup (Or: Why Is Everything So Complicated Now?)

Remember when makeup was simple? You had foundation (one shade: "sort of beige"), lipstick (red or pink), and if you were feeling fancy, some blue eyeshadow. Done. You looked like every other woman in America, and that was fine.

Now? NOW we have primers and color correctors and highlighters and bronzers and contour kits and "strobing" and about 47 other things I can't even pronounce. When did makeup application become a full-time job requiring a degree in fine arts?

And can we talk about how our skin has completely betrayed us? You try to apply a little eyeshadow and your eyelid is like "lol, remember when I used to be smooth and stay in one place? Yeah, those days are OVER, sister." Everything slides, creases, settles into lines you didn't even know existed. It's like your face is actively working against you.

Contour: A Mystery Wrapped in an Enigma, Smeared on Your Face

Okay, seriously, what the hell is contour? I've watched approximately 4,000 YouTube videos, and I still don't get it. Apparently, you're supposed to paint dark stripes on your face to create "shadows" and then paint light stripes to create "highlights," and somehow this is supposed to give you cheekbones like a supermodel.

You know what actually happens when we try this? We look like we got in a fight with a mud puddle and forgot to wash half our face. The 23-year-old beauty influencers make it look so easy. "Just blend!" they chirp, waving their makeup brushes like magic wands.

Bruh. BRUH. My skin doesn't blend. It absorbs makeup unevenly, settles into every crevice, and then slides off my face by 2 PM like it's trying to escape.

Hot take: Maybe—and hear me out here—maybe we don't NEED contour. Maybe our faces are perfectly fine the way they are. Maybe the only people who need contour are runway models and people in witness protection trying to change their appearance

The Color Conundrum (Or: Everything Looks the Same Until You Get Home)

Can we discuss the absolute nightmare that is choosing makeup colors? There are approximately 847 shades of "nude" lipstick, and I swear on everything holy, they ALL look identical in the tube. Then you get home, apply it, and you've somehow purchased either "corpse chic" or "I ate a highlighter and it's not sitting well with me."

And don't even get me started on foundation matching. "What's your undertone?" the sales lady asks. I don't know, Carol, I didn't realize my skin had TONES. I thought it just had... color? Apparently, I'm supposed to know if I'm "warm," "cool," or "neutral." I'm usually just "tired."

My Completely Unqualified Color Advice (Take at Your Own Risk):

Eyeshadow: Is blue eyeshadow back? Is it still out? Does anyone actually know? I've decided to stick with browns and taupes because they're basically impossible to screw up catastrophically. They just make you look slightly sleepy, which at our age is pretty much baseline anyway.

Lipstick: Here's my foolproof test: If you look in the mirror and your first thought is "that's... a choice," it's too bright. If you think "did someone die?" it's too dark. Aim for somewhere between "I'm wearing lipstick" and "am I wearing lipstick?" That's the sweet spot.

Blush (yes, we're calling it blush now, not rouge): Apply it. Look in the mirror. Remove half of it. Look again. Remove half of what's left. NOW you're getting close. Trust me on this—what looks "barely there" in your bathroom mirror will photograph as "possibly a clown" in natural light.

I once bought a foundation described as "radiant beige." Turned out "radiant" was code for "orange." I looked like I'd been using Trump's personal makeup artist. My husband asked if I was feeling okay. I was not.

Skincare: The Thing I Should've Started Caring About in 1995

Everyone's obsessed with skincare routines now. Ten-step Korean skincare! Retinol! Vitamin C serums! Hyaluronic acid! Peptides! It's like someone raided a chemistry lab and decided to market it to middle-aged women as "self-care."

My skincare routine for the first 40 years of my life was basically some sort of cleaners. Code for “Whatever is on sale”. Give me some sort of props for at least moisturizing daily. Woohoo!!!

Now I'm supposed to have a morning routine and an evening routine and something called "actives" that I'm meant to layer in a specific order determined by... molecular weight? I don't know, I wasn't paying attention during chemistry class. I was too busy perfecting my blue eyeshadow application.

The truth: You know what would've helped my skin? Sunscreen. Every day. Starting in 1982. But did I do that? Of course not. I was too busy slathering myself in baby oil and lying in the sun like a rotisserie chicken. Past me was an idiot.

The Great Eyelid Rebellion of Our 50s

Let's address the elephant in the room, shall we? Our eyelids have officially declared independence from our face. They don't stay where we put them. They fold in unexpected directions. They crease in new and creative ways every single day.

Trying to apply eyeliner is like trying to draw a straight line on a water bed. During an earthquake. While someone's yelling at you about your car's extended warranty.

And eyeshadow? Forget about it. You carefully apply a nice neutral shade, look down for THREE SECONDS, look back up, and it's migrated into every single crease you have. You've gone from "subtle and sophisticated" to "did she fall asleep in her makeup from 1985?" in the time it takes to blink.

Things that actually help (discovered through extensive trial, error, and low-key crying in my bathroom):

• Primer: I don't understand what it does, but it does SOMETHING. It's like giving your makeup a fighting chance before it inevitably slides off your face anyway.

• Cream products: Powder is the enemy. It settles into every line on your face like it's trying to highlight your entire life story. Cream products at least have the decency to betray you more subtly.

• A light hand: Whatever you think looks good, use half that amount. Then use half again. You're welcome.

YouTube Tutorials: A Journey Into Despair

I've watched so many makeup tutorials. SO MANY. Each one hosted by a gorgeous 22-year-old with perfect skin, perfect lighting, and the steady hands of a neurosurgeon.

"This is super easy!" they say, as they effortlessly create a flawless cat eye in 2.3 seconds. "Anyone can do this!"

No. No, we cannot. Their skin is still cooperating with them. Their eyelids haven't yet learned about gravity. They can actually SEE their entire eyelid when they close their eyes. They're living in a completely different reality.

Also, why do they all do their makeup in a ring light bright enough to guide aircraft? Of course everything looks good in lighting that intense. I could probably contour with mud in that lighting and still look decent.

Once watched a tutorial on "how to make your eyes look bigger." Spoiler alert: the only way to make my eyes look bigger at this point is photoshop or surgery. The makeup tips were lies. All lies.

What I've Actually Figured Out (Barely)

After approximately 35 years of mediocre to terrible makeup application, here's what I've learned:

1. Lighting is everything, and it's all lying to you. Your bathroom mirror is a liar. That Target dressing room mirror? Also a liar. The only truth is natural sunlight, and even then, it's probably being passive-aggressive.

2. Moisturizer > Everything else. Seriously. You could skip every other step and just moisturize, and you'd probably look better than if you spent 45 minutes applying 17 different products to dry, angry skin.

3. Less is actually more. I know, I KNOW, every tutorial says this and I ignored it for years. Turns out they were right. Shocking.

4. Your eyebrows are more important than you think. They frame your entire face. Mine have been gradually disappearing since 2010 thanks to waxing according to the girl now threading my eyebrows. Some days they're sisters. Most days they're distant cousins who don't talk at family gatherings.

5. Mascara is still magical. Even when everything else goes wrong (and it will), mascara can make you look like you got at least four hours of sleep. Which is basically the best we can hope for at this point.

Oh, I did try false eyelashes. Briefly.
Nothing quite humbles you like someone squinting at your face and asking, “Uh… what’s on your eye?”

Apparently, false lashes are not a “set it and forget it” situation. They migrate. Quietly. Especially when you rub your eyes. By the end of the day, I looked less glam and more confused craft project.

What We Actually Need (And I'm Talking to the Beauty Industry Here)

Forget products for "mature skin" that are just overpriced versions of regular products in fancier packaging. Here's what we ACTUALLY need:

• Foundation that doesn't settle into every line like it's trying to map out our entire life journey
• Eyeliner that accounts for the fact that our eyelids are no longer smooth surfaces
• Lipstick that doesn't bleed into the fine lines around our mouth (you know, the ones that mysteriously appeared overnight)
• Eyeshadow that STAYS PUT for more than 12 minutes
• A color-matching system that doesn't require a degree in color theory
• Tutorials from people who also have no idea what they're doing but are willing to try anyway

Real talk: Some days you'll get it right. Most days you'll look like you applied your makeup in a moving vehicle during a tornado. Both are perfectly acceptable outcomes.

My Current "Routine" (Heavy Air Quotes)

On days when I actually wear makeup (which, let's be honest, is becoming less frequent because WHO HAS THE TIME):

Morning: Moisturizer with SPF. This is non-negotiable. Past me didn't use sunscreen, and present me is VERY ANGRY about that decision.

If I'm leaving the house and want to pretend I have my life together:
• Tinted moisturizer (because "foundation" sounds like too much commitment)
• Concealer under my eyes (because the bags are now permanent residents)
• Blush (applied, then immediately regretted and half-removed)
• Eyebrow pencil (today we're attempting "sisters," but we'll probably land on "vague acquaintances")
• Mascara (the one thing I can do without a tutorial)
• Lipstick in some shade of "is this color or is this just fancy chapstick?"

Total time: 10 minutes. Results: somewhere between "she tried" and "is she okay?"

The Truth Nobody Wants to Hear

Here it is, the big secret: nobody actually knows what they're doing. Those beauty influencers? They're good at makeup, sure, but they're working with 25-year-old faces. That's easy mode. We're playing on expert level with equipment that's actively working against us.

And you know what else? Most people aren't looking at you that closely anyway. They're too busy worrying about their own disappearing eyebrows and whether they remembered to blend their own makeup.

So yeah, I still don't know what contour is. I can't tell you which serum goes on first. I don't understand why there are 47 different types of mascara when they all basically do the same thing.

But I'm showing up. With or without makeup. With or without any clue what I'm doing. And honestly? That's enough.

"The goal isn't perfection. The goal isn't to look 25. The goal is to look in the mirror and think 'yeah, okay, I can work with this' and then get on with your day."

In Conclusion (Because Even My Rambling Must End Eventually)

Am I qualified to give makeup advice? Absolutely not. Do I understand contouring? Still no. Have I figured out my undertones? Not even a little bit.

But I've made peace with being bad at this. I've accepted that my makeup skills peaked in the late 80s and it's been a slow decline ever since. I've embraced the fact that "good enough" is actually good enough.

And if you're like me—still confused by modern makeup, still not sure if rouge is called blush now, still Googling "how to apply eyeshadow" like you're going to magically understand it this time—you're not alone.

We're out here. We're trying. We're failing. We're showing up anyway.

And honestly? That's the most beautiful thing of all.

(That was too sincere. Let me end on brand: My face and I have reached an understanding—I'll stop trying to dramatically transform it with techniques I don't understand, and it'll stop moving around so much when I'm trying to put on mascara. We're still negotiating the eyebrow situation.)

P.S. If anyone ever figures out contour and can explain it to me using only words of one syllable and possibly interpretive dance, I'm all ears.

Navigating Menopause: When Your Body Writes Its Own Script

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We get all sorts of lovely hand-me-downs from the women before us — grandma’s recipes, mom’s mannerisms, maybe even an unfortunate family name or two. But menopause? Oh no. That’s where our bodies suddenly decide to go “Thanks for the lineage, ladies, but I’m gonna freestyle this one.”

Because of course the one thing we want to predict is the one thing that shows up like, “Surprise! I do what I want.”

The Myth of the "Typical" Experience

My grandmother's life was a testament to resilience. Born in the early 1900s, she became a single mother in her 20s—no small feat for a woman of her generation. She married my grandfather in her 30s and had three more children with him. Her final pregnancy, when she was carrying what would have been a boy, ended in heartbreak. The baby was born around seven months and didn't survive.

What happened next shaped her experience of menopause in an unexpected way. As she told me years later, she simply never got her monthly again after that final pregnancy. Just like that, in her late 30s, her body made a decision. No gradual tapering, no years of irregular cycles, no hot flashes she ever mentioned. Her periods stopped, and she moved forward with the same quiet strength she'd shown through everything else.

Hearing her story, I was convinced I'd inherited this trait. Surely I'd be like my grandmother—sailing through menopause in my early 40s without fanfare. Reality had other plans.

For years in my 40s, I knew something was shifting. My previously reliable cycle became unpredictable, yet when I asked doctors to check my hormone levels, I was repeatedly told I was "too young." By my late 40s, my body went haywire—periods every few weeks, then months of nothing. Night sweats appeared suddenly at 50, then vanished just as mysteriously. Fourteen months after what I thought was my last period, I had one more small reminder. That was nine years ago.

Don't get me wrong—I did not sail through menopause like my grandmother appeared to. Though honestly, I'm not sure she really did. There's just something you don't share with someone in their late teens or early 20s when you're in your 70s. And honestly, she might’ve had her own menopausal saga — she just never said a word. Women back then kept quiet about everything, like it was some sort of Olympic event in silent suffering.

As for me? Oh, I’ve had the whole sampler platter of symptoms. Sleepless nights? Check. Skin so itchy I’m shocked I haven’t clawed myself like a cat with an attitude problem? Double check. My hair’s drier, my skin has its own storyline, and don’t even get me started on my reflection. I look in the mirror and think, “Who is that?” because in my mind, I am — and forever shall be — 35.

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Common Menopause Symptoms

I am not a physician or medical professional. The information shared here is based on what I have found through various sources and personal research. It is intended for general information only and should not be considered medical advice. Please consult a physician or another trusted healthcare professional regarding your own health concerns or questions.

While every woman's experience is unique, certain symptoms appear frequently during perimenopause and menopause and seem to be a natural response to aging:

Irregular periods - Often the first sign, cycles may become shorter, longer, heavier, lighter, or wildly unpredictable before stopping altogether.

In perimenopause, hormone levels (especially estrogen and progesterone) fluctuate, so cycles often become shorter, longer, heavier, lighter, or skipped before stopping for 12 consecutive months.​

This irregularity can last several years and is usually normal, but very heavy bleeding, bleeding after sex, or bleeding after 12 months without a period should be evaluated by a clinician.

I did have one random, surprise period after 14 months — because of course my body couldn’t just let me celebrate in peace. At the time, I didn’t go running to the doctor, though I absolutely would have if it happened again or came with any other weird side quests. Honestly? I didn’t even realize it was something I should be mildly alarmed about. I’d heard so many mixed messages about menopause that I just chalked it up to “yet another bizarre thing my body is doing for reasons unknown.”

Vasomotor symptoms (Hot flashes and night sweats) - Sudden waves of heat that can disrupt sleep and daily life are among the most common menopause complaints; large reviews estimate that roughly half or more of midlife women experience them globally, with some regional variation.. They may last months or years, or barely appear at all.

These episodes can disrupt sleep, concentration, and work performance; some women have only mild occasional flashes, while others have frequent, intense symptoms for many years.

I went through a few solid months of night sweats — the kind where you wake up feeling like you’ve been sleeping in a slow cooker — but luckily I dodged most of the classic hot flashes. Silver linings, right?

But my body has definitely become extra dramatic about temperature. Too hot, too cold… apparently I’m Goldilocks now. I remember getting the same “thermostat gone rogue” vibes when I was pregnant, so I’m guessing it’s hormone-related — though I have zero medical proof and my degree in Googling symptoms is not exactly accredited.

If anyone else has dealt with this little temperature circus, I’d honestly love to hear your take.

Sleep disturbances - Whether from night sweats or hormonal changes, insomnia becomes an unwelcome companion for many women.

Difficulty falling asleep, frequent night waking, and non‑restorative sleep affect about half of midlife women and is often linked to both night sweats and direct hormonal effects on sleep regulation.​

Poor sleep then feeds into daytime fatigue, mood changes, and “brain fog,” creating a cycle that can significantly impair quality of life.

I’m still battling those lovely sleepless nights — because apparently my brain thinks 3 a.m. is the perfect time to relive every embarrassing moment from 1994. My go-to fixes? I’m not saying they’re doctor-approved, but I sometimes slap magnesium oil on the bottoms of my feet or pop a melatonin. Most of the time, they do the trick.

Although… now I’m side-eyeing melatonin after stumbling across an article hinting at a possible link to heart disease. Fabulous. Just what we needed — another thing to overthink at bedtime. I’ll dig into the actual research before tossing the bottle into the trash, though.

And listen, I used to unwind with a glass of wine after work. It was my tiny nightly reward for surviving adulthood. But after reading a few too-many “concerning articles,” I’ve dialed it back. Not gone forever — just not an every-evening habit anymore. Yet again, something else added to my “must research when I have the energy” list.

When all else fails? I just get up and read for a bit. Honestly, I’ve learned that a couple bad nights don’t mean I’m doomed — usually, a good solid sleep eventually swoops in like a hero sliding into the last 15 minutes of an action movie..

Skin changes - Dryness, itching, and changes in texture and elasticity. Estrogen helps maintain collagen, skin thickness, and moisture, so declining levels contribute to drier, thinner, less elastic skin and can make wrinkles and sagging more noticeable.​ You might look in the mirror and not quite recognize the face looking back, even though you still feel 35 in your head.

I moisturize every single day — it’s basically my long-standing religion at this point, thanks to my naturally dry skin. Sadly, the itchiness did not get the memo and continues to do its own thing. So far, nothing I’ve tried has made much of a difference, and I’m running out of lotions that don’t claim to be “life-changing.”

If anyone out there has cracked the code on this itchy nonsense, I would love to hear your wisdom. Honestly, at this point I’ll take tips, tricks, old wives’ tales — whatever you’ve got.

Hair changes - Thinning, dryness, and changes in texture are common as estrogen levels decline.

Many women also report hair thinning, dryness, or changes in texture around menopause, related to hormonal shifts and, in some cases, genetic pattern hair loss becoming more visible.

I’ve always had thick hair — the kind that makes you feel like you’re carrying a small animal on your head. But lately, the texture has thrown me for a loop. Sure, it’s always been a bit on the dry side, but now it’s practically auditioning for a role in Desert Hair: The Musical. My scalp has joined the rebellion too, sprouting dry patches like it’s going out of style.

I tried a shampoo and conditioner made for dry scalps, which helped… a little. But now some of the dryness is creeping back, so I might have to play product roulette again. Winter seems to be the main culprit — apparently my hair and scalp are seasonal divas.

Mood shifts - Irritability, anxiety, and low mood can accompany hormonal fluctuations.

Irritability, anxiety, low mood, and emotional lability are frequently reported during the transition, and studies show that pre‑existing mood or anxiety disorders can temporarily worsen at this time.​ Cognitive symptoms such as forgetfulness, trouble finding words, and difficulty concentrating are commonly described; research suggests they are real but usually mild to moderate and often improve over time rather than progressing like dementia

Brain fog - Difficulty concentrating and memory lapses that can be frustrating and unsettling.

I can totally relate to losing words and forgetting things. My once-sharp memory has definitely taken a bit of a vacation. It’s especially embarrassing when I’m in the middle of a presentation and suddenly my brain swaps out the exact word I need for some very basic, everyday substitute. You know — when the fancy word disappears and all you’re left with is “that thing… you know… the thing.”

I was starting to get a little concerned about it, to be honest. Then, during a casual chat with a neighbour who’s around my age, we somehow landed on the topic of memory and our shared worries. She told me about a book she was reading — written by a neuroscientist — and explained that what we were experiencing was actually quite normal.

I bought the book immediately (because of course I did). And honestly? It made me feel so much better. Knowing that this kind of memory slip is a natural part of aging was incredibly reassuring. Now if only it could help a little more with word retrieval… because standing there mid-sentence, hoping the right word magically shows up, is still a daily adventure. 😅

Vaginal dryness - Decreased lubrication and tissue changes that can affect comfort and intimacy. Loss of estrogen leads to thinning and drying of the vaginal and vulvar tissues and can reduce natural lubrication, causing discomfort, burning, or pain with intercourse (part of what is now called genitourinary syndrome of menopause).​

These changes, along with possible reductions in libido and sleep/mood problems, can affect intimacy, but local vaginal estrogen, non‑hormonal moisturizers and lubricants, and open communication often help significantly.

Okay… vaginal dryness.
There, I said it. Honestly, this topic feels a little personal — like the kind of thing you whisper to your best friend over a glass of wine while pretending the waiter can’t hear you. But here we are.

I did notice some… let’s call them “changes” in my pelvic floor, and like many of us, I tried to fix it myself with Kegels. Because of course isn’t that the magic answer to everything from childbirth recovery to solving world peace?

Apparently not.

Things started getting worse, so I finally went to a pelvic floor specialist. And you know what she told me?
“Stop doing Kegels.”

Excuse me?
Turns out the muscles around my bladder were too tight, and all those Kegels were basically making me the overachiever no one asked for. She actually had me start doing reverse Kegels, which I didn’t even know existed. Reverse! Who knew there was a backwards version of something I barely understood forward?

She also suggested I talk to my doctor, who prescribed HRT suppositories. They definitely helped — though I can’t say everything is fully cured.

Let’s just say… it’s better. Mostly. On good days.
And on other days?
Well…
Let’s just say the word “Depends” suddenly feels like both a joke and a lifestyle choice. 😉

Alright, let’s dive into the glamorous world of… menopause.
I know, I know — not exactly the spa day we ordered.

So here we are, talking about something we’d honestly prefer to pretend isn’t happening. People keep telling us, “Oh, women have gone through this since the dawn of time!” Sure, but also… did they? Life expectancy back then was much shorter, and most women spent their “golden years” churning butter or dodging plagues. If they hit 50, I’m pretty sure they were too busy being alive to complain about hot flashes.

On the other hand, we get the extended edition of this whole hormonal circus — lucky us!
But hey, if we’re living longer, we might as well live comfortably, right?

What You Can Do On Your Own

(aka: Ways to Survive the Daily Surprise Parties Your Body Throws Without Warning)

While medical intervention is sometimes necessary, many women find relief through self-care strategies:

For hot flashes and night sweats

Aka “internal spontaneous combustion.”
• Dress in layers you can dramatically rip off mid-conversation
• Keep your bedroom cold enough to store meat
• Watch out for spicy foods, caffeine, and alcohol — basically all the fun things
• Own a tiny fan you can whip out like a Victorian lady having a moment

For skin itching and dryness

Because apparently we’re turning into lizards now.
• Use gentle, fragrance-free moisturizers right after bathing
• Cooler, shorter showers (sorry… long steamy showers, it’s not you, it’s menopause)
• Add a humidifier to your home — bonus, plants love it
• Colloidal oatmeal baths if you’re feeling itchy and fancy
• Hydrate like it’s your full-time job

For sleep problems

Insomnia: the gift that keeps on giving.
• Keep a consistent bedtime routine (yes, like a toddler)
• Kick electronics out of your bedroom — doomscrolling and sleep do not mix
• Try deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation
• Avoid caffeine after noon unless you want to stare at your ceiling all night

For hair and scalp dryness

Because why shouldn’t our hair join the rebellion?
• Switch to sulfate-free shampoos
• Ease up on heat styling (your hair will thank you)
• Deep-condition like you’re auditioning for a shampoo commercial
• Silk or satin pillowcases — luxurious and practical

For overall wellbeing

Aka keeping your sanity intact.
• Move your body — exercise helps mood, sleep, and bones (basically everything except folding laundry)
• Eat balanced meals rich in calcium and vitamin D
• Stay connected with your people — girl chats are medicinal
• Try yoga, meditation, journaling, or whatever helps you feel grounded
• Join menopause support groups — because nothing bonds women like sharing hot-flash horror stories

woman getting help with menopause symptoms. AI generated

When to Seek Medical Help

Sure, we like to think we’re total badasses — and honestly, we are — but even warriors sometimes need a little reinforcement.
(And no, “reinforcement” does not just mean pouring another glass of wine… tempting as that may be.)

Reach out to your doctor if:
• Your symptoms are steamrolling your quality of life
• You’re dealing with heavy or prolonged bleeding
• You have bleeding after 12 months without a period
• Your mood has dipped into depression or severe anxiety territory
• Home remedies have failed, the wine is no longer cutting it, and you’re one hot flash away from flinging your poor fan across the room in a dramatic meltdown

The Bottom Line

Menopause? Yeah, it doesn’t come with instructions, a script, or even a polite warning. You might glide through it like your grandmother did — lucky her — or you might get hit with symptoms she never once mentioned, probably because she was too busy keeping a stiff upper lip and pretending everything was fine. You might be waiting for the dramatic, headline-worthy changes everyone warned you about, while quietly suffering through the sneakier stuff — night sweats that turn your bed into a water park, relentless itching, or those glorious nights spent starring at the ceiling like it owes you an explanation.

And let’s talk about that mirror disconnect. Your body is out here doing its own thing, telling a story you didn’t sign up for, on a timeline that’s clearly off-script. Meanwhile, your brain is like, “Wait, wasn’t I supposed to still look 35?”

Here’s the thing: understanding what’s happening, having a few tricks in your back pocket, and knowing when to call in the pros can turn this hormonal rollercoaster from total chaos into… well, something a little more survivable.

Your experience is valid — whether it’s a minor blip, a full-blown circus, a one-night wonder, or a multi-month saga. And no matter what anyone might tell you, you are never too young, too old, or too “whatever” to advocate for your health and demand the support (and sanity-saving advice) you deserve.

Embracing Movement After 50: A Personal Journey and Practical Guide

My younger self was one of the lucky ones — thin, active, and seemingly able to eat what I liked without gaining weight. In my 20s, I was a gym rat—the kind who'd spend hours there happily moving between stretching, cardio, and weights. I wasn't bodybuilder-level, but I was strong and I had abs I was proud of. But life happens; full-time work, raising children, evenings spent doing courses instead of hitting the gym. Exercise became something I had to fit in, rather than something I simply loved.

The weight came off quickly after my first child, but after my second, those last few pounds stubbornly remained. In my 40s I noticed the weight creeping up. Then I turned 50 … and suddenly weight seemed to want to be my new best friend. I saw changes in areas I never worried about in my 20s and 30s. I tried everything: Noom, a nutritionist, Weight Watchers. They all worked — if I followed the plan perfectly. The problem? I never truly learned how not to eat whatever I wanted. The relationship I once had with food, had fundamentally changed.

Now, keeping fit in my 50s feels vastly more challenging. But it is possible. With a few smart updates to how I approach movement and health, I’m discovering a way of staying active that honours both the body I have now and the one I used to have.

Why Moving Matters (Especially After 50)

Good news: becoming more active isn’t just about chasing the "old you" — it’s about finding the best you at this stage of life.

Here's what I've learned from all the reading I've done: movement matters—more than I realized. Staying active after 50 isn't just about looking good or maintaining weight. It genuinely helps us live longer and feel better. Things like brisk walking, cycling, or jogging support heart health and longevity. Strength training becomes crucial because it fights the natural muscle loss that accelerates as we age, protects our bones, and helps with balance. And the benefits go beyond the physical. I've noticed that when I'm moving regularly, my mood is better, my thinking is clearer, and I just feel more capable of handling whatever life throws at me. So yes — even if your younger self was lean and active, the game changes in your 50s. And that’s okay. You’re not just maintaining, you’re adapting.

What’s Changed (And What to Do Differently)

From my own experience, here are some of the shifts I’ve noticed and the adjustments that have helped.

Slower metabolism & changing body composition

It feels as though the body that easily drifted along in previous decades now resists. Here's what I've noticed:

I'm losing muscle without even trying. Strength that came naturally before now requires intention and effort to maintain.

Weight gravitates to different spots. My 20s and 30s blessed me with easy abs and arms I never thought about. My 50s? Fat accumulates around my back, hips, and midsection in ways that feel entirely new.

Everything metabolically shifted after menopause. My body's relationship with food and energy changed fundamentally. The rules are different now.

What to do:

Add strength training 2–3 times a week. The goal isn't a bodybuilder physique—it's about feeling strong and capable in daily activities.

Give more attention to protein intake, quality sleep, and nutrient-dense foods. Recovery becomes increasingly important, and nutrition directly impacts energy and well-being.

Let go of calorie-counting mentality. Shift focus to building strength and sustaining consistent movement. This reframing creates a healthier, more sustainable approach.

Movement must evolve

The body at 25 can handle almost anything. At 50, joints, recovery time, and energy levels require a more thoughtful approach.

Aerobic exercise remains essential. Brisk walking, jogging, or cycling all support cardiovascular health and help reduce disease risk.

Strength and resistance work becomes more crucial with each passing year—it's what maintains muscle, protects bones, and keeps the body functional.

Gentle, low-intensity movement matters too, especially for anyone starting fresh or easing back into fitness after a break.

What to do:

Set a realistic weekly goal: aim for 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity and 2 strength sessions per week.

Choose exercises that protect joints, enhance balance, and reduce injury risk (e.g., bodyweight squats, resistance bands, walking uphill, Pilates).

Make it regular — even short bursts of movement are meaningful.

Mindset shift: from “working out” to “moving for life”

In my 20s I went to the gym to maintain weight or counterbalance a slice of cake. In my 50s it’s more about longevity, strength, and health.

What to do:

Reframe exercise as a form of self-care and prevention—not punishment.

Recognize that the body you have today is different — and deserving of its own best practice.

Embrace movement you enjoy (friend walks, biking, dance, pickle ball) so consistency is more likely.

Tips that helped me:

• Consistency over intensity: Some days I simply walk; other days I lift (or plan to).

• Build habit, not perfection: Some weeks I work out consistently. Other days I veg and watch TV. That’s life.

• Recovery matters: Good sleep, mobility work, and rest days help me feel ready.

• Nutrition supports everything: I aim to eat for health and energy, not just weight.

• Enjoyment = longevity: If it feels like a chore, I’m less likely to stick with it. I pick movement I like.

Final Thoughts

Turning 50 brought with it a realization: staying fit is no longer simply about being lean or chasing curves. It’s about sustaining mobility, enjoying life, preventing decline, and feeling strong in this version of me.

My younger self might have scoffed at a 30-minute walk or thought resistance bands were a substitute. But my 50-something self knows this: movement is everything. Strength matters. The body that supports my kids, career, hobbies, friendships is worth investing in.

If you’re there too — navigating the changes, noticing the shifts, wondering “what now?” — know this: you’re not starting late. You’re simply starting right. Be kind to yourself. Celebrate progress, not perfection. And keep moving forward.

Consistency is the hardest part for me! What are some of your best mental trick or routine secret for staying motivated and getting out the door on a day you just don't feel like it?

Here are some of the websites I have used for staying fit:

• Hoag Foundation. https://www.hoag.org/aspire/the-benefits-of-staying-fit after-50/ Hoag

• WebMD. https://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/what-to-know-about-running after-fifty WebMD

• AARP. https://www.aarp.org/pri/topics/health/prevention-wellness/physical activity-exercise-benefits/ AARP

• Stanford Longevity Center. https://longevity.stanford.edu/lifestyle/2024/07/02/recommended-exercises for-adults-50/ longevity.stanford.edu

Feel free to use these as starting points to build your own plan, adjust as you learn what your body responds to, and enjoy the journey of movement after 50!

What have you done to stay active and fit in your 50’s

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My Family's Food Revolution

Seasoned with Youth

When my youngest daughter was nine, life decided to casually toss me a brand-new anxiety I never asked for. She was diagnosed with psoriasis. Red marks showed up across her torso and along her hairline. It didn’t seem to bother her physically, but emotionally? Oh, she was embarrassed—and that alone was enough to send me into full mama bear mode.

So off to the dermatologist we went, expecting maybe a cream and a “no big deal.” Instead, the doctor looked at me and said it was the worst case of pediatric psoriasis she had ever seen. Ever. Love that for us. Then she calmly explained all the evolving treatments my daughter would likely need for the rest of her life.

I nodded. I smiled. I held it together like a champion.

Inside? Absolute panic.

The idea of increasing medications and lifelong treatments for my child was terrifying. I didn’t want that road for her. I didn’t want her growing up thinking her body was something that needed constant fixing.

And because the universe has a sense of humor, that wasn’t the only thing keeping me up at night. Around the same time, I was also worrying about my oldest daughter, who was a competitive dancer. A well-meaning co-worker casually mentioned that dance could affect the curvature of her spine and lead to back problems later in life.

You know—just a light, breezy comment to casually destroy your peace.

So there I was, lying awake at night, mentally juggling chronic skin conditions, spinal curvature, and the overwhelming responsibility of keeping tiny humans safe in bodies that apparently came with fine print.

Parenting: it’s not for the faint of heart. 💕

In my quest to keep both my daughters healthy well into their adult years—because apparently worrying is my full-time job—I stumbled across an osteopath who completely changed how I looked at health. Instead of just treating symptoms, she talked about supporting the body through diet and movement. Revolutionary, I know.

She recommended a documentary called Forks Over Knives, and that was it. One documentary turned into five. Five turned into a full-blown rabbit hole of food, health, and healing. Suddenly I was questioning everything I thought I knew about what we eat and how our bodies actually work. These documentaries opened my eyes to the connection between food and healing in a way no doctor ever had.

So we decided to try a whole food, plant-based approach. No big expectations—just a “let’s see what happens” experiment.

And then something happened.

“Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.”
— Hippocrates

As we started eliminating certain foods, my youngest daughter’s psoriasis began to clear up. Like… noticeably. Naturally, I was shocked and cautiously hopeful. When I went back to the specialist and shared this, expecting maybe a “huh, interesting,” she became angry. Not skeptical—angry.

She insisted it had nothing to do with diet. It was the ointments she had prescribed. And the summer sun. Definitely not food. She raised her voice, dismissed everything I had done to help my daughter, and told me—very confidently—that I’d be back in a few months because “that’s when I see all my psoriasis patients.”

She also insisted I keep the SickKids appointment she had referred us to, which I did. For three years.

Here’s the kicker: the doctors there never once saw any psoriasis on my daughter’s body.

Fast forward twelve years. My daughter has never needed—or sought—any additional treatment for her skin condition.

And that moment? That was when I truly learned to trust my instincts as a parent. Because sometimes, you really do know your child better than anyone else. 💚

Let me be very clear before anyone comes for me with pitchforks and peer-reviewed studies: I am not saying food was a miracle cure. What we experienced was just that—our family’s experience, not scientific proof.

Current dermatology research doesn’t confirm a direct cause-and-effect relationship between diet and psoriasis. It does, however, acknowledge that certain foods can help reduce inflammation. All I know is this: something kept the psoriasis away.

For a few years, we really tried to focus on what my daughter was eating. And let me tell you—this was not easy. She has a mega sweet tooth, and her high school diet could best be described as “nutritionally questionable.” So no, it wasn’t perfect. Not even close.

We never became fully plant-based saints. But for many years, we made a conscious effort to eat well most of the time. And that’s kind of where I landed on the whole food thing: eating healthy isn’t about perfection. It’s about balance.

Because let’s be honest—if we couldn’t enjoy a few treats here and there, what would even be the point? A little indulgence isn’t going to ruin your health. Sometimes it’s the only thing that gets you through the day, and I fully support that.

Everyone seems to have their own very strong opinions about what the body needs to stay healthy as we age. While I’m definitely not a health professional, my daughter’s experience sparked a lasting interest in nutrition and aging well.

So, after years of reading, watching, learning, and living it… here’s what I’ve learned about eating well after 50:

What I’ve Learned About Eating Well After 50 (a very non-medical opinion)

1. Protein is no longer optional.
After 50, muscle loss starts speeding up like it’s late for an appointment. To keep what you’ve got, protein becomes more important than ever. How much you need depends on your activity level, body size, and overall health, so this is one of those do-a-little-research-for-yourself situations. Annoying, yes—but worth it.

2. Some nutrients deserve VIP status.
Potassium, calcium, vitamin D, fiber, and vitamin B12 all become increasingly important as we age. Fun fact no one tells you: your body’s ability to absorb B12 can decline over time, sometimes thanks to underlying health issues.
And calcium? Women over 50 especially need more of it—and not just for bones. It also supports heart health, nerves, and muscle function. Basically, calcium is doing way more behind the scenes than we give it credit for.

3. Fiber is wildly underrated.
Most people don’t get nearly enough fiber, even though it’s doing the unglamorous but essential work of keeping digestion running smoothly. It can also help reduce the risk of type 2 diabetes. Fiber isn’t flashy. It doesn’t get headlines. But it absolutely shows up for you.

4. Color on your plate is always a good sign.
Those natural reds, blues, and yellows in fruits and vegetables? That’s your clue that heart-protecting antioxidants are at work. Dark leafy greens like kale, arugula, broccoli, and spinach are especially powerful—loaded with fiber, supportive of muscle function, and great for heart health.
Bottom line: if your plate looks beige, we might need to talk.

5. Keep an eye on the usual suspects.
Sugar, saturated fat, and sodium—yes, those three. Being mindful of them helps reduce the risk of high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease. This isn’t about perfection. It’s about awareness and small choices that add up over time.

After 50, most of us know what works—and what absolutely does not—for our bodies. Eating well isn’t about rules or extremes. It’s about paying attention, aiming for balance, and enjoying life while taking care of yourself. And yes, that includes dessert. 🍰

“If it came from a plant, eat it; if it was made in a plant, don’t.”
— Michael Pollan —

What is one simple, non-negotiable healthy food or habit you swear by for energy and feeling great?